BDSM Munches are local meetings at a local place, such as a coffee shop, or restaurant where Kinksters get together to chat about everyday life. Establishing a meeting place for the community to gather.

Once you have been vetted and have established yourself in the local community through getting to know others in a public setting. you may then receive invites, to parties and private dungeons.

Munches are great for singles to get together and decide if they would like to learn more about each other as friends, players or courting. Munches are a wonderful way for kinky friends to meet up, chat, and discuss their daily lives.

Keep in mind, Munches attract all kinds of people. If the first Munch doesn’t sit right with you, don’t let it discourage you, just think of it as trying on a new pair of shoes, you keep trying on different pairs until you find the one that fits for you.

After all there are all kinds of munches, thanks to the internet it's not only easier to find local munches in your area, it's easier to share them and grow the community

A special Interest munch can include but not limited too, Spanking, foot worship, Leather, or Power Exchange Dynamics such as DS, FLR, DDLG and more.

You can host a successful munch based on a special interest, if their is a demand for it in your area.

FLR Munches Focus specifically on female domination. They may have sub categories to them

Categories act as specific niches under the umbrella of a kink or dynamic such as Matriarchy female domination or Mommy Domme’s and littles.

If you are interested in Female Domination. This can be a great place to begin. Often local munches lean towards Males being dominant and females being submissive which makes us the odd balls out. By joining a female dominant munch, you can discuss ideas with other female Doms and male submissive’s in your area.

Depending on the rules listed in the event, male singles may or may not be permitted to join.  

TNG Munches, invite ages anywhere from 18 to 35, it's a great way to meet locals in the area around your age, These munches may also be held at a local bar or pub in the area. The age range can also depend on the hostess’s desires for the munch. Because Next generation Munches are younger people getting together you can expect to meet other newbies like yourself.

These are just a few examples of what you may come across when looking for BDSM events in your area. Keep in mind a munch can be created on any topic within the community so long as there are people willing to meet up for it.

Munches are casual local events, therefore you want to dress casual for the occasion

Because they are public events at your local bar, cafe or restaurant, fetish wear is not permitted

Nor are open displays of risky behavior. Infact your behavior at these events will be examined by others Therefore if you want to discover more events such as private parties and dungeon nights. Munches is where and how you’ll make your first impressions. Approaching these events in a open and friendly manner is sure to gain you some friends within the community

Often these events have ambassadors, those who are there to meet and greet newbies 

They will show you around, you will learn who’s who along the way and begin to get a good feel for the group. Munches are important to the community, they keep us connected, in our city’s and states, They are also common ground for meeting a potential dom or sub you may have met in a local online group. Here you can meet safely in a public place and if your date doesn't appear at least you aren’t sitting alone. Instead you’ll be at your local munch where other locals you’ve met may be present to chat with instead. 

1 No Fetish wear or gear, dress causal

This is not the time or place to be an exabitionist. Dress appropriately

2 Adhere to the age limit, Example TNG Munches are 18 to 35 only

Be sure to check the rules before attending to make sure there aren’t any age limits or restrictions to be aware of.

3 Respect others privacy

Camera’s are generally frowned on. If you receive permission to take photos, be sure to be aware of those in the background. Our privacy at these local events is top priority.

4 Name tags are often used, People may use a pseudonym or their username

To keep their legal name private. If you know people there, stick to their name on the tag.

That way everyone feels comfortable and no one is outed.

5. Do not request  strangers to call you, Sir, Master, Mistress, Goddess or any other lifestyle title

Titles may be shared between Dom’s and their submissives. But aren’t permitted otherwise

Therefore if they are not your Dom you do not need to call them by a title. If you suspect someone to be submissive, refrain from using lifestyle titles or pet names like Sweetheart.

Keep it respectful and you’ll have a great time 

6 When in doubt, don’t be shy, ask for help

If you are unsure or confused, ask the hostess or ambassador of the group about it. 

We’re all there to have a good time and that includes you too, give others a chance to help guide you along the way.

Fetlife is great for sharing your lifestyle openly

And meeting others of all walks of life. Be warned we all think we’re kinky until we meet someone kinkier than us.. Unlike FB, instagram and other mainstream networks, photos aren’t restricted nor are groups banned for their content

Pleazeme.com is another adult network free of censorship, less well known, but well worth checking out

Sharesome is another social network for adults censorship free. It is not focused on BDSM or fetishes but rather sharing x rated content in a social manner, Welcoming performers and followers

Allow them to cater to sexual freedom and exibitionism

When it comes to mainstream networks, you will find the bdsm community in the group section.

These groups are focused on discussing your lifestyle, fetishes and kinks within their rules on censorship.

Mainstream networks are great for those who enjoy the PG 13 side of kink and if that’s you don’t worry, you are certainly not alone.

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