What is BDSM ?

BDSM Safety 101

Before you get into the hot and heavy bits it's important for you to know what BDSM is and what it is not. 

BDSM is the Art of Discipline, Bondage, Domination & Submission, Sadism and Masochism 

We practice SSC 

What is Safe Sane and Consensual BDSM?

I define BDSM as the Conscious practice of

Using Psychological and Physical practices in

Dominance and Submission and or, Humiliation, Bondage, or pain play along with related practices Practiced In a safe legal consensual manner for erotic pleasure and arousal between both consenting parties.

Both parties participate in agreement that they will not do anything that would require a physician, Psychotherapist, Psychologist or other counsel or services in order to heal or recover from a scene

What is a scene?

A scene is a consented sexual practice or actoutside of normal or regulare sex.   such as tying someone up or spanking them over your knee to the point of erection or orgasam. 

It's important to know BDSM isn’t for everyone, But for those who can identify with it, I want you to know, you are certainly not alone. There is nothing wrong with you in any way shape or form. That’s one of the many reasons i have chosen to write this book, to educate those new to the path of power exchange and the erotic world of bdsm, to give you a guide that will allow you to begin in a safe sane and consensual manner as well as guide to communicating your desires.

Now I am certainly not an expert by any means and as a researcher and avid student of life I urge you to study as much material as you can before jumping into the deep end of BDSM. Practices such as bondage ie rope play, breathe play and erotic torture can be risky and therefore dangerous. The more we educate ourselves The safer we are as players the safer we become as a community

You see, BDSM forces you to be honest with yourself first.

The bond Created in these relationships far exceeds that of the avg relationship because of the level of trust needed in order to create them in the first place. 

Once you are truly honest with yourself about your needs, wants and desires in a relationship. You’ll discover a sense of freedom and glee, after all that’s what it's all about. Everything we do we do in the hopes we will be happier, give happiness or bring happiness to ourselves and others.

Sharing our deepest desires with each other forges a bond of trust 

Seen in the very first scene you act out together as Dominant and Submissive or

Sadist and Masochist